Wednesday, July 13, 2005
whats left of a couple when the passion's gone?
for all this time, when i see an old couple together holding hands or walking together blissfully, i thought maybe true love does exist after all. love that lasts after the initial passion fades, love that endures the tests of time, love that surpasses the cruelties of this world.
BUT. (there is always a 'but' boys n girls.) who really knows what went on in that supposedly loving couple's lives?
maybe they each had affairs to satisfy their selfish selfs earlier on in the relationship, and each didnt know or didnt mind about the other's affairs. and as they always like to say, ignorance (or feign ignorance) is bliss. and so now we see them, hand in hand, smiling as they walk in the park, hiding a frivolous past.
or of course (sorry guys i just had to think this way), maybe the man had an affair(s) and the woman forgave him after she found out. probably cos she so called loved him too much, or maybe women just tend to act silly in certain matters of the heart. thats why now we see them (again) hand in hand, smiling as they walk in the park. this time, the woman trying to bury a past she would rather forget.
or maybe, both didnt have affairs, but they only stayed with each other habitually, just cos each was too used to having the other around. in some ways, mankind is built to resist change. and so now we see them (you know whats next), hand in hand, smiling as they walk in the park, hiding the desire to know what could have been if they had the guts to venture.
maybe, perhaps, the love has long since vapourized with time. yet life is not just about feelings. the practicality of life sets in with children, money, houses etc etc. and in the end each of them knows that the best viable decision is to remain status quo, remain together. and that is why, we can see them hand in hand, smiling (well they had to stay together so might as well be happy with it. fake it if you cant make it) as they walk in the park, wishing deep inside that life wasnt all that practical.
so tell me, what actually are the odds that the old couple you see in the park, hand in hand and smiling, truly in that kind of selfless, obstacle-surpassing, timeless love?
Wednesday, July 13, 2005
whats left of a couple when the passion's gone?
for all this time, when i see an old couple together holding hands or walking together blissfully, i thought maybe true love does exist after all. love that lasts after the initial passion fades, love that endures the tests of time, love that surpasses the cruelties of this world.
BUT. (there is always a 'but' boys n girls.) who really knows what went on in that supposedly loving couple's lives?
maybe they each had affairs to satisfy their selfish selfs earlier on in the relationship, and each didnt know or didnt mind about the other's affairs. and as they always like to say, ignorance (or feign ignorance) is bliss. and so now we see them, hand in hand, smiling as they walk in the park, hiding a frivolous past.
or of course (sorry guys i just had to think this way), maybe the man had an affair(s) and the woman forgave him after she found out. probably cos she so called loved him too much, or maybe women just tend to act silly in certain matters of the heart. thats why now we see them (again) hand in hand, smiling as they walk in the park. this time, the woman trying to bury a past she would rather forget.
or maybe, both didnt have affairs, but they only stayed with each other habitually, just cos each was too used to having the other around. in some ways, mankind is built to resist change. and so now we see them (you know whats next), hand in hand, smiling as they walk in the park, hiding the desire to know what could have been if they had the guts to venture.
maybe, perhaps, the love has long since vapourized with time. yet life is not just about feelings. the practicality of life sets in with children, money, houses etc etc. and in the end each of them knows that the best viable decision is to remain status quo, remain together. and that is why, we can see them hand in hand, smiling (well they had to stay together so might as well be happy with it. fake it if you cant make it) as they walk in the park, wishing deep inside that life wasnt all that practical.
so tell me, what actually are the odds that the old couple you see in the park, hand in hand and smiling, truly in that kind of selfless, obstacle-surpassing, timeless love?
